True Love?
True
romantic love develops slowly and gradually, while infatuation develops at
almost no time. True love always starts slowly; because you have to know the
person before you can truly love that person.
Those who rush into marriage
learn by sad experience of self-made miseries. Infatuation is rushing into a
bad decision, while true love is attracted in the total personality of the
person. Infatuation is mainly interested in the physical features, which
depends on few non-sense things, while true love is attracted with most of the
qualities of the one loved.
True
love affects your whole personality. Willing to learn, adjust and change to
bring out the better qualities. Infatuation is blind, illusion and fantasy,
trying to believe that the only thing that matters is their love for each
other. True love is not only interested in the whole person but that interest
is growing warmer as the day goes by. In infatuation, the interest for each
other grows between hot and cold if not freezing.
True love upholds that the
most important person in the whole world next to Christ is the one you love.
Infatuation revolves only around the merry-go-round of fantasy, always
searching for someone new. Sexual purity is not replaceable.
True love can thrive without physical expression until full commitment for marriage..
Separation
and distance make true love fonder, but infatuation will not survive the test
of separation or distance but will seek happiness in another person. True love
always cultivates to nurture the relationship, always complimenting never
dominating.
True love causes two different personalities to grow intimately
together that even a short separation
will help in evaluating that emotional love.
True
love will live through quarrels and lots of disagreements-learning how to
handle conflicts with poise. Infatuation may do a lot of kissing and making up
but later may declare war that may never be solved.
True love can easily
resolve quarrels and disagreements for healthier relationship. Infatuation can
ignite little disagreement into a massive forest fire leading into permanent break-up.
While true love is concerned about giving way to improve and build stronger
relationship, infatuation is concern only about getting and receiving from the
relationship for personal gains and interest.
True love is always unselfish,
always giving. Infatuation is always
waiting to receive and getting. True love dwells in genuine humility and
sacrifice for the one love. Infatuation dwells in human ego and castle of
arrogance.
True
love is always responsible, willing to pay the cost, willing to endure hardship
and suffering. Infatuation is always ready to escape into the open sea of
unreliability. True love is not love at first sight but the result of knowing
and accepting the person just as he is. Love requires knowledge.
Some people are infatuated (not in love) with
God, which they did not know about, as they are infatuated with a man or with a
woman that they did not know.
True romantic love distinguishes between a body
and a person. Choosing a girl because of her beautiful figure is unstable criterion.
She might become Coca-cola shape (in cans) in just next few years. Selecting a
guy for his physique and good looking face is a treacherous decision that may
result to a lifetime of suffering. A person who easily fall in love with the
appearance will also easily fall-out of love.
True
love generates respect. Erotic lover who whispers sweet nothing in private but
tear you down in public is like a clown. He is using another person to produce
laughter by giving his lover bad remarks. Such person will do well in circus
but not in the family.
True love is self-giving; it is not what you can get
from another person but what you can give with out expecting anything in
return. The passionate desire for her/his body is not love but lust. Any
prostitute can fully satisfy that burning desire.
True
love can thrive without physical expression until full commitment for marriage.
If your only reason for having a sweetheart is to have someone to hug and
caress- better buy yourself a life size doll.
True love will not pay with sex
and escape. It will not hurt the other person after getting what he/she likes.
True love is willing to pay the full cost of responsibility.
True
love seeks to build a life and permanent relationship of marriage. The
objective and goal of any relationship is marriage. Marriage is a triangular
relationship between God, a man and a woman, not a triangle between three
persons. Lust will not settle for octagon.
True love is not for experimental
and trial purposes. The basic principle is not to be involved with anybody you
are not willing to marry. Get involved only after you are physically,
emotionally and spiritually prepared.
True love embraces difficult serious and
difficult responsibility. Marital responsibility is far more than money. It is
commitment to love the other person come what may. Lollipops and roses have
nothing to do with true love.
True
love can postpone gratification of sexual passion. True love can wait till
marriage. Only a righteous person with Bible doctrine in the soul can function
in this manner.
True love is basically a commitment. Feeling, emotion, selfish
and childish expressions would change and fall-out of love. Fallen expectations
and broken promises are basic elements that you can avoid. You have to endure
them.
