Some Concerns In Choosing Your Date
The first thing we need to deal with is perspective. No matter how wonderful he may be ladies, or how gorgeous she is guys; you must always bear in mind, priority number one is not the gift, its the Giver: Jesus Christ.
Here are some serious questions and spiritual
concerns for a date, or even a prospective date, and I’m going to challenge you
to consider very closely and carefully the answers you find. Why, you say?
Because Proverbs
Q. What is the objective of your life, the
single-minded focus? Any other
answer besides “the execution of God’s plan and purpose, and the
glorification of Jesus Christ,” is wrong!
Psalm 42:1-2 say’s, “As the deer
pants for the water brooks, so my soul pants for You, O God. My soul thirsts for God, for the living
God; when shall I come and appear before God?”
Q
.Do you see any semblance of spiritual maturity or any application of
God’s Word in their life? Wise King Solomon told his son, to “Trust in the LORD with all your
heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He
will make your paths straight,” Proverbs 3:5-6. In his Sermon on the Mount Jesus told his fellow
Israelites, “Blessed are those who
hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they shall be satisfied,”
Matthew 5:6.
Q Do you ever hear principles of doctrine,
promises, prayer, anything about Christ? In Matthew 4:4 the Lord Jesus
Christ said, “...It is written,
‘Man shall not live on bread alone, but on every word that proceeds out of
the mouth of God.’” Paul
instructed Timothy, and every other believer who would go on to read these
words, to “Be diligent to present
yourself approved to God as a workman who does not need to be ashamed,
handling accurately the word of truth.”
Q Do they have problems with
authority? Are they rebellious,
arrogant, hateful? Why does any
believer, adult or teenager, submit to authority? For one reason-- because God designed
systems of authority for the Angelic Conflict; and to submit, in humility,
glorifies Him!
Q Who are their friends? Observe the
friends of someone you date. 1 Corinthians
Q Are they self-centered? Stay away from
the self-centered, they serve only the OSN. In Romans 6:17-18 Paul say’s, “But thanks be to God that though you
were slaves of sin, you became obedient from the heart to that form of
teaching to which you were committed [sound doctrine], and having been freed from sin [
/ domination of / OSN], you became
slaves of righteousness.”
Though they have been freed from its power to dominate and control
them, the egocentric, self-absorbed believer is still a slave to the OSN.
Q Do you see integrity? Integrity is simply ‘consistency of
character.’ Christian integrity
will build a wall around your family.
Q Does this person show regard and respect
for others, or for the legitimate laws and and authority?
Q Are hiding anything from you? Be
discerning enough to notice the little things. This doesn’t mean nit-picking but simply
honest evaluation from divine viewpoint.
Q How do they handle financial
responsibility? Do they waste every
dollar they earn or do they ever earn any money to begin with? Better consider it.
Q Does this person display thoughtfulness
and care towards others
Q Do they have manners; do they ever think
of anyone but self or are they thoughtless toward others?
Q How does this person dress? Are they neat, clean?
Q Do they finish what they start? Are they quitters? Quitters never win,
and winners never quit!
Q Are they cruel toward animals?
Q Do they have a healthy sense of
humor? Laughter will keep you from
going insane!
Q Do they have self-discipline-- the
spiritual strength to persevere and endure through adversity? Paul wrote
to the Corinthians in
Q Does this person complain and find fault
with everything? Grace is the attitude of gratitude.
Q Are they violent or hostile in attitude?
Q How do they take criticism? Are they overly sensitive, do they fall
apart every time someone corrects them or makes a suggestion?
Q Do they have self-respect and spiritual
self esteem? I.e., a clear
understanding of who and what they are in the plan of God-- bond slaves to
Jesus Christ-- Royal Priests, Ambassadors and Ministers.
Q Would this person make a great friend for life?
Love is being able to give up what you want so others don't get hurt. Love means never doubting anything. It means trusting and being honest with each other. In courtship, my life is for me but my heart is for you. In marriage, my heart is for you and my life is for the two of us.
Woman dreaming, desire nothing but monogamy, Man delights in variety, enjoy the sin of
polygamy. Love is a woman's moon and sun, a fantasy world. Man has seek more fun,
behinds bushes and walls. Woman lives only for him but man never satistied, Count to
ten and man is bored, in hurry to find..another one, promising all the same lies he told
each one of them, woman think of this now, Before he make you believe another sweet lie!
